The issue of infidelity in relationships, particularly marriages, has been trending on Zimbabwe social media platforms in the last few days. The comes after a slay queen was allegedly outed by one of her “Roora Squad” girls, who snitched to her husband, that he was not the father of the couple’s newborn baby.
This has resulted in intense discussion on whether men should request DNA tests from their wives and significant others upon the birth of children. Unsurprisingly, most men seem to be for the idea of DNA tests, with some going as far as suggesting that paternity tests should be mandatory.
However, among women, the issue seems to have resulted in mixed reactions. Some women said they would not be comfortable with such, arguing that demanding a DNA paternity test shows that there is a dearth of trust in the relationship. Other women said that though they would be open to the DNA paternity tests, they would end the relationship as soon as the results come back.
Bestselling author Sue Nyathi managed to elicit candid responses from women when she posed the issue of men demanding DNA paternity tests on social media platform Twitter.
Below are some of the responses from women to the issue of DNA paternity tests raised by Sue Nyathi.
you guys are very mature cause nah…if you ask me for a DNA test i am gonna be so pissed cause to me thats tantamout to accusing me of whoring around.
Nah there wont be any going back from that.
Its either you trust me or you dont. If not we have no business having a child https://t.co/0CbbLyEaTL
— Princess of the Shona Tribe (@Arumlily92) April 27, 2021
— Nomura💀 (@JigokuNomura) April 27, 2021
I dont mind mandatory DNA tests if we also get a database where we can put his ID number and all the children he has registered birth certificates appear. Infact add an email notification when a birth certificate is taken 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
— Ana Gono (@anacoletah) April 27, 2021
While at it they should create a DNA database so we know when our partners have DNA out there instead of waiting for death or the baby mommas to bring drama to my doorstep. https://t.co/T0e0MQktRC
— Lioness waSoko (@cmtdmac) April 28, 2021
Gives me ammunition for future fights…
“Uyakhumbula indaba yeDNA wena sbhanxa??”
Well factory is closed so… 🤷🏽♀️
— #March11Baby (@ngizwakele) April 27, 2021
Not sure if offended is the word but we would go our separate ways after that. https://t.co/QWqTqo8NXS
— Mazilankatha (@BigInduna) April 27, 2021
I think a faithful woman would be offended. She might not show it but she would and will most likely start questioning this whole trust kuti she trusts you fully but you don’t https://t.co/zqSqG2V0Ab
— Nyasha (@NyashaSamsunga) April 28, 2021
Nna I would shem, it means he would be seeing a possibility of the child not being his. He would not be trusting that I am an honest woman. It will certainly change how I feel around him. I haven’t reached that point of growth I guess 🤷🏽♀️ https://t.co/uqogzRvoTJ
— RediLetebele ❤🌻 Remember WHO you are! 👑 (@Redibone6) April 28, 2021
Demanding a DNA test is very disrespectful therefore, I will be offended.
If it a discussion before hand nd then once I’m pregnant you give a gentle reminder, then maybe not. https://t.co/tk4EqRYkrk
— IG: Princess_Lollz (@Princess_Lollz) April 28, 2021
Trust isn’t something I can force on someone. If his gut tells him that the baby is not his by all means I will let him do whatever he wants. But at least I will have known that he doesn’t trust me and there is a lot you can do with that information. https://t.co/qnipal70fL
— Wanjiru Kung’u (@Miss_Gina_Kungu) April 28, 2021
Nope. I think I would be offended kana ndine zvandakaturika. Otherwise given the current happenings neniwo ndinenge ndichitoda kuty munhu azive I’m not playing games. Mwana ndewake https://t.co/g203Sq77Ny
— tsungy (@Tsungy_tsue) April 28, 2021
Knowing the person I am, I would be. Tena sana. I’d also do it just to prove a point but I don’t think I’d stay after that. https://t.co/2sBGAt0FDw
— Back & Body Hurts (@HoneyandRum_) April 28, 2021
Not all. I’d want to do it so that he can deadbeat with his chest – not this nonsense of deadbeating and making up stories of she was hoeing and I wasn’t sure. https://t.co/2uTkFzAXZ8
— Luyolo Madikiza (@luyolo_mad) April 28, 2021
No. I have been saying this. A DNA test should be one of the mandatory tests right when a child is born. In my family we have raised roughly about 4 kids, later to find out they are not Ncube. If you have nothing to hide why should it be a problem running a DNA test on a child.
— Nothabo Ncube 🕊 (@Drthabo_) April 27, 2021
Nope. But how he asks is important. He mustn’t be offensive about his request. https://t.co/6BNH5mFENe
— Sis’ Adjoa (@MrsLeope) April 28, 2021
Nope I would rather his mind was at ease, instead of dealing with all things unsaid and him questioning everything. Uncertainty can drive one crazy https://t.co/uG6It7G70S
— ThollyM_Ngcobo (@ThollyM_Ngcobo) April 28, 2021
Not if i knew i fucked another dude while i was ovulating
I would also want to know who the father is https://t.co/HF0y1P4dTJ
— Nomathamsanqa (@TamTamsWorld) April 28, 2021
No and infact I think it should be standard. Being asked a DNA is not a reflection of trust. Babies get swopped in hospitals and also hmmm… https://t.co/baf4F3DsyE
— TheCool (@A_Dot85) April 27, 2021
Very offended. It means he feels something is wrong with the relationship. Vele akuhlaleki after that even if the child is his.
— Lady Peace (@novodloza403) April 27, 2021
Very much. Quite angered by the thought. It’s a silent accusation of cheating, if you dont trust me, let’s not be doing anything. it will never be the same after it between us-probably ruined.Married men are impregnating women&only their death reveals it. Wives just trust them.
— Zimcritic@29🇿🇼 (@zimcritic) April 27, 2021
Yhu @SueNyathi Hayi shame my maturity or whatever is needed for this has not reached this level. I’d be deeply offended, in fact I’d be hopping mad. DNA test yobubhaxa, ube townela ntoni ke if he doesn’t believe we’re exclusive.
— Pumza Fihlani (@Pumza_Fihlani) April 28, 2021
What a heavy request. No. As long as our relationship was monogomous, No. it’s an insult. Never
— Senzeni Ndebele (@senndebs) April 28, 2021
I would allow him to do it. I would even pay for it. He has the right to know if the child is indeed his or not. But in terms of our relationship? That would be the end of it because he clearly doesn’t trust me.
— HRH Princess Sibu Mahlobo (@SiweMahlobo) April 27, 2021
It depends on why he is asking the question. If it is because he doesn’t trust me then I will be offended but I will go ahead and do the DNA so that I can nail his ass for maintenance. If it is to make sure we took the right baby home then I see no problem.
— Donna (@Fegidee) April 27, 2021
My heart: I want to know why he was having unprotected sex with someone he doesn’t trust.
My rational objective side: But with the way women are now deceiving men into raising their kids, it’s only fair.
So I’m torn coz nxaaa, but also🤔 but what does he take me for?
— Nubian Queen (@Tariro_Ann) April 27, 2021
Very offended and we would test and I’d leave him shortly after
— Ntombkayse Nosphongo (@Veezionz) April 27, 2021
Much so… Still do it and never look at you the same way because what exactly are you implying 🥺 if you can think that less of me, there’s no coming back.
— Countess of East Coast (@Ntzarkee) April 28, 2021
Being a believer in monogamous relationships – absolutely. But I would agree and after the results are out, so am I! Tell him to go look for a woman cheats so you can safely live with your fears.
— Dr Linda Ncube-Nkomo (@LindaNcubeNkomo) April 28, 2021
Look, as much as I get this ne… When you were sleeping with me you had no concerns of who else I may be sleeping with. Now there’s a child and suddenly there are concerns that didn’t exist when you were taking off my panties?
— IssA sanda (@asanda_01) April 27, 2021
No. I like proving people wrong.
It be entertaining to watch how things unfold once the results confirm he’s 99.999% the father. I’d send a congratulatory card. Coz, petty.
I’d demand my DNA be tested too. He pays for both. What if the baby was swapped and isn’t mine either?
— Smurfette (@rakkel_o) April 28, 2021
What says ye on the issue of women responding to DNA paternity rest requests?